Been so busy with Christmas I forgot to write a post about Recovery Mummy’s Christmas party!
The Christmas Party marked the first Mummy and Me play group meeting at Inroads on Neville Street.
Mummy and Me play-groups are aimed at pregnant women, parents and family members who have been affected by addiction or disorders we also welcome parents and children who have not been affected as we are trying to stamp out the negativity most recovering parents feel.
I was overwhelmed with the amount of parents and children that turned up. I was also surprised and thankful that two lovely ladies wanted to volunteer to help me put the buffet together and clean up after.
We had music, food and watched Frozen on the big screen whilst playing with toys. Santa (My Husband) popped in and gave the kids some sweets. We all had a great time from 15 months to adults there was something for everyone and we all had fun.
A documentary photographer was also at the Party taking great shots, she will be following Recovery Mummy around for a while so updates will follow.
Play-group at Inroads Neville Street will be every Wednesday 1-3pm
Ely/Caerau Hub will be Every Tuesday 1-3pm starting in January
First thing I notice about my new book is the front cover. On the cover of the book it has a monkey and rain drops. The rain drops are raised and I really like the feel of them, the raindrops are soft and smooth.
The book is about savannah animals in a hot dry season waiting for a storm, its so dry even the ground is cracking. The animals start to feel, smell and see the storm coming, the porcupine smells it first and tells the Zebras who then see a lighting bolt and goes to tell other animals. The rain comes and it rains, rains and rains till it stops! when the rain stops everywhere is green and the ground is now soft not cracked and dry.
All the animals are happy now, they can drink from the water hole and eat fresh fruit from the trees…this makes me really happy. The animals can even rest in the shade of the trees if they get to hot again.
I really did enjoy this book, mummy enjoyed this book too! Mummy thinks this book was great for getting my imagination and senses to run free.
Review done on behalf of Primary Times online magazine.
On Tues I went to my first ever school Nativity as an adult and I was very blessed that it was my 3 year olds Nursery Nativity!
E hadn’t given much away in the run up to the play, the teachers had let us know that it was going ahead and that costumes would be provided. I asked E a few times…what part do you play in the Nativity and he would just say ‘jingle bells’
I wondered if it would be a traditional Nativity as a few of my friends who have older children said that schools usually put on an alternative version to the traditional Baby Jesus, Mary and Joseph story.
I did however have my suspicions that it would be a traditional Nativity as E kept telling my friends, family and strangers that he does not want to go back in his Mummy’s tummy.
So the day of the Nativity and my Husband, Mum, Sister and Brother in law decided to come with us too. The play was to be out in the garden by the stable but because of the rain the play was performed in the school hall.
The school did a great job decorating the stage. The hall was packed full of parents and family members all excited to see the show.
My E was a cow from the stable and he looked like he really enjoyed himself. He was singing and dancing and had the biggest smile ever on his face when he saw that everyone had come to see him perform.
my son and his bestfriend
I was so proud of my little man, I actually had tears of joy watching him on stage dancing away.
Well done to my sons nursery teachers for getting all the kids to perform so well, that must of been a hard job. The songs were great and we all enjoyed ourselves. I would like to wish my sons school a very Merry Christmas.
If you have not been to café junior after dark then you really are missing out.
As evening draws in Café junior is transformed into a welcoming restaurant that anyone would want to dine at, however if you have children this place really is the place to be.
We have all been there, wanting to have a nice relaxing meal with the other half or simply going out with friends for a meal and not being able to get a babysitter…why not try Juniors Family-Friendly Restaurant located within Café junior on Fanny Street in Cathays.
With it being Christmas my husband and I decided to go out for a meal with our friends Samantha and Karl. We also wanted our children to come out for our Christmas meal so we all decided to try Juniors.
As we entered the restaurant we were welcomed by our waitress for the evening Nicola, Nicola very politely asked us what we would be drinking and dashed off to get the drinks. Juniors have an Alcohol licence so my husband had a glass of red, Karl and I had a cola, the kids had a jug of squash and Samantha had a glass of Prosecco which came in a champagne flute along with a strawberry …very posh indeed.
Husband and Me
Samantha and Karl
Our table was very festively decorated, we even had Christmas crackers!
Our children ran off to play in the play-zone as we looked at the menu and decided on what to eat. The children were in eyes view so we all could relax and enjoy some adult conversation without the worry of the children not being safe.
The menu really has so much choice and there is also a Christmas menu you can view online. If you would like to order off the Christmas menu then it is best to call ahead so the chef knows. We decided to go for the regular menu as we all fancied a burger meal.
The kitchen is run by Gareth who has been working in the hospitality industry for over 20 years he is also a business partner of Café Junior . Gareth has help from May who also has over 20 years kitchen/food experience.
All burgers are 100% Angus beef, they are served with a brioche bun with chunky potato wedges and roasted vine tomatoes.
My husband had the Blue burger which was topped with onion rings and covered in a creamy blue cheese melt.
My friend Samantha had Hunters burger which was topped with smoky BBQ sauce, crispy bacon and melted cheese…you could have this with the 100% Angus beef or with chicken breast.
My friend Karl had the all the same as the Blue burger but with regular cheddar cheese melt instead.
I am the fussy eater of the group and I asked Gareth if he could do me a skinny chicken burger…no oil, no dressing just salad, chicken and a bun. He said no problem and this is what I had.
Skinny Chicken Burger
Yummy Yum Yum
My meal was beautifully presented, it was fresh, hot and smelt so good! Its quite rare for me to get a meal that isn’t covered in oil after I specifically asked for none, so when I received my meal I was pleasantly surprised that it was exactly what I asked for. The chicken burger was mouth watering good, the brioche bun was soft and tasted so much nicer than a sesame seed bun. The vine tomatoes were cooked to perfection, sweet and very moreish. The salad was by far the best salad I think I’ve ever had! It was crunchy, the lettuce leaves had life (unlike other places) everything was fresh as the day bought. My salad had onion, cherry toms, onions, beetroot, avocado and even pomegranate! So delicious I even tried the balsamic sauce that was in a separate container and again that was beautiful too.
My three year old had Toddler Tapas as he never sits still so I though this would be the perfect meal as its a selection of finger foods and small bites. He had cheese tortilla chips, tortilla chips with tuna mayo, strawberry, avocado and chicken bites amongst other healthy finger foods.
Carter Jay and Martin
My friends son Carter-Jay had spaghetti Bolognese with hidden veg and my friends other son Martin had Sausage and chips even though it was not on the menu, again Gareth showed us he was very versatile when it come to our meals.
My 15 month old had a bit of everyone’s and he particularly enjoyed the Spaghetti Bolognese and Toddler Tapas.
Our meals were so filling we didn’t get a dessert we just sat back, relaxed and planned a family holiday for next year whilst our children tired themselves out in the play-zone.
I really do urge parents to try Juniors Family-Friendly Dining, its nice to enjoy a meal without worrying what your children are up to or if they are safe. If you do decided to book a meal at Juniors you can do so by booking online, calling or going into Café Junior.
Christmas is upon us and Santa’s are out in force but where to take my boys this year?
Well I tried to book us tickets to see the big man himself at Cardiff castle but when I called the hotline to book our tickets I was surprised to find they had already sold out, I then asked would they be adding anymore dates to which they told me they already had…this was the beginning of November.
I don’t have the biggest budget in the world so wanted somewhere that was fun and enchanting for my child but easy on my purse. I looked at Hamleys and was gobsmacked at the £25 per child price tag. I’m not saying its not worth it and I’ve read great reviews about it but for me personally you have got to be mad to spend that much especially if you have more than one child.
Two years ago we went to Santa’s Grotto on Queen Street, it was nicely decorated but it just seems to be after your money. You can’t take your own pictures, the pictures they take are poor and overpriced. You only get 5 minutes with Santa and a gift that breaks before you get home…so unhappy children too.
So back to my search for Santa, there are many craft fairs and school fairs that will put on a Santa’s Grotto, only problem here is the time you get to spend with Santa can be limited.
I was very nearly about to go to Penylan community centres Santa’s Grotto, we went there last year and for £5 the kids loved it but then I saw a tweet from Café junior saying they were putting on a grotto and it was only £2 per child.
We arrived and straight away my boys knew where we were. I then told them that Santa was visiting and if they were lucky they could meet him too! Once inside my eldest son forgot about Santa and started to play, my LO joining in. There was Christmas tunes playing and a craft table was set up, lovely Nicola (Staff) was helping the children make Christmas cards.
The atmosphere was great, everyone was enjoying the music and coffees, many families were enjoying meals and drinks…it really was a joy to be there.
My youngest was a little scared of Santa but that was to be expected he’s only 15 months. My three year old was amazed by Santa in his Grotto, he sat next to Santa and said what he would like for Christmas. Santa gave my boys a present and some sweets. We were in the Grotto for some time and took many photos even my mother, sister and brother-in-law got to see my little ones visiting Santa.
After our meeting with Santa, he came out of the Grotto and started dancing to the Christmas songs everyone joined in and even Olaf and Elsa was there dancing too. We all had such an amazing time and didn’t want to go home. Café Junior made everyone feel welcome and provided a great Santa’s Grotto.
So to sum everything up, I really don’t think you have to spend a fortune taking the little ones to see Santa… they are just happy to meet him, whether that be at a lavish or expensive venue or in a supermarket. Santa is Santa and every child deserves to meet him.
I am so close to my launch day of Recovery Mummy I feel I need to let everyone know a little more about me personally. I don’t want any of my group members to think that I just went to University learnt a bunch of stuff and then felt like dictating to people about how to enjoy life and live free of addiction or other mental health problems.
At 15 years old I developed anorexia nervosa, I think my parents divorcing, moving home a lot and then suffering with anxiety issues took its toll on me and I learnt very quickly that if I couldn’t control what was going on around me then I at least could control my weight.
I suffered with eating disorders for around 8 years and at the very end would make myself sick to the point where I was bringing up blood and I weighed barley 7st at 23 years old.
At 15 I also started to drink. When I drank i lost my hunger pangs and soon found that drinking liquid was stopping me from eating, another thing i found was that the drink also stopped me from having panic attacks and i could at long last have the courage to make friends.
By the age of 17 I had started to drink heavy daily, I would wake have one cup of tea and then survive the rest of the day on wine, martini and cider and blacks. Pay day I would find myself in the pub and easily spend all my wages buying rounds of drinks for anyone I knew as I knew come tomorrow and the rest of the week they would provide my alcohol. I also dabbled in other substances around this age, although drinking in work finally got me fired.
At 23 i had my first emergency detox. I made a bet with someone that I could go a whole day without a drink…such a silly mistake. I got through the day shaking, sweating I was sooo thirsty and I felt really weak. I started to experience panic attacks and decided it was time for bed I was feeling so ill and my balance was everywhere.
By that evening my body had gone into shock, I couldn’t walk, my fingers and sort of seized up and I couldn’t feel my face. I tried to phone an ambulance but my fingers couldn’t dial the number and I then lost the ability to move my lips to talk. My now husband was there and he quickly called emergency services.
When the paramedics arrived they asked what had I taken then my partner said nothing she hasn’t even had a drink today. The paramedic asked about the amount of alcohol i usually drink and how long for and when he found out he said… silly girl, she needs medical attention fast.
I don’t remember much of that night, my husband was told that I could possibly go into to cardiac arrest as my potassium levels were so low the doctor was surprised I was even alive.
I woke the next morning and for the first time in a long time i could actually see…that sounds crazy but its the truth…things were clear.
I remained in hospital for around a week I was on a detox drip to flush out my body for 48 hours and then a potassium drip for 4 days. I had to take potassium every day for around a month at home. I also found out that my liver had signs of damage and if I stopped the drinking my liver in time would repair.
This was the first step into admitting to everyone that I was an alcoholic.
From then on I’ve had 2 relapses but they were quite short lived and I will be writing about them in the future.
So as you can see, I know how it feels to live with addiction. It gets easier and with support everything is possible, if I can do it surely others can.
Recovery Mummy is here to help those who want help. I don’t talk about addiction at my play groups but I think it is important to know your not alone there are others who have walked the same walk you have.
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Where do I begin on my three year olds strops! Yesterday if you had seen me walking back from nursery with my three year old and baby in the pram you would of thought Id lost my mind!
It all started when we left nursery, my LO likes to go on an adventure though the bushes to the front gates of the school, I don’t mind this usually as he finds it fun and I can have a chat to other mums at the school, yesterday however it had been raining and the grass was wet and muddy.
Before I knew it LO was sliding through the mud trying to keep his balance and splat! He gets up covered in mud…his shoes, coat, jeans and face was covered in it. I couldn’t help myself but let out a laugh, that was until I realised I am the mummy and its my job to soak them clothes and bath him once we get home.
My son wasn’t fazed by his ordeal until he noticed his new coat was covered in mud and this is when my lovely little three year old become a threenager !
I asked him to get on the buggy board as we would miss our bus, NO…he replied, I asked can you keep up with me then, NO…he answered then he started to scream out…I WANT A TREAT!!!!
Hell no was he getting a treat, I began to put his reigns on and with this he started to get really stroppy and then covered me in mud too!
Then the baby woke up because of LOs screams and stropping, it was lunch time and baby was hungry. I started to pick up speed and thought I might just make that bus after all….but no. LO then decides to freeze, I am there pulling on the reigns, baby is screaming now for his lunch and LO is still shouting…I WANT A TREAT!!
I am about to lose my mind so I then pick him up and start to carry him whilst pushing the pram, buggy board still down catching my legs and mud all over my face…I must of looked a right state, I had a few looks lol.
We miss the bus and its taken us 45 mins to walk a 10 min walk. We wait for the bus and eventually get home.
As soon as we enter the house my muddy LO starts shouting about the treats again and spots a candy cane on the tree…before I know it I hear crash and bang, the Christmas tree is flying across the room!
Tinsel, candy canes and baubles are everywhere! The baby is having fun with the decorations and LO is there munching on a candy cane.
I had had enough…I ran a bath for LO and put on his favourite DVD to try and distract him from this awful behaviour. It worked, he got clean and started to behave again only problem now was I had to redo the Christmas tree (4th time I’ve done this)
Because of his bad behaviour we missed his school fare, he literally drained me and I was far to tired. When will this behaviour stop!!